Do you constantly feel like you’re chasing your tail? But are you actually busy or are you just caught up in the feeling of being busy? If it’s the latter, here’s four ways to break the being busy cycle
We’re always on. Mobile phones and social media make staying in touch super easy, but they also make it hard to really switch off. And the more we’re on, the more we find to do. Which means there’s a modern feeling of being busy all the time but not actually getting anything done. What’s the difference between being actually busy and just being stuck in the bad cycle? And how do you break the being busy cycle.
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Ask yourself why you’re so busy?
Are you busy because you’re taking on extra work? Are you busy because you’re not asking for help for home? Or are you busy because you’re trying to distract yourself from a problem that’s bothering you? More often than not your schedule is full because of a reason within your control. Once you ask yourself the hard questions and figure out why you’re pushing yourself, you can start to figure out how you want to spend your time.
Ask yourself what downtime means to you?
Does it mean lounging in front of the TV with a boxset. Does it mean quality time with friends or family. Or does it mean time to exercise? Once you can tell the difference between downtime and being busy you might start to look at your schedule a little differently. If working out is something that helps you release tension, then is it really something you should add to your list of activities that cause you stress? Figure out how much downtime you really need to recharge your batteries and plan accordingly.
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Ask yourself to say no
Saying no is scary for some people. The fear of being selfish and suiting yourself or the fear of upsetting a loved one by saying you can’t do a favour can be a lot for people to deal with. So, this week look at your schedule. Identify one task that you can cancel without repercussions and practice saying no. Be careful not to use that free time for something else. And remember, no is a complete sentence.
Ask yourself what means the most to you
Split your schedule into two lists. One that needs to be done and another that you are choosing to do. Going to work, buying groceries, bringing the kids to school are all examples of things that have to be done. Going to the gym, working late to get ahead or seeing friends you’ve nothing in common with anymore are all things you’re choosing to do.
Now, take time and ask yourself why you do each thing, and if the answer doesn’t bring you joy see if it can be culled from your list. Be tough and realistic with yourself.