First we had hygge, then we had lagoom and now we’re all set to live our best lives by adopting the principles of Kintsugi.
In a nutshell kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing pottery with gold, so instead of hiding the cracks with glue you turn them into a feature to be proud of. So of course we want to know how this can impact our lives.
Lucky then the book Kintsugi Wellness by Candice Kumai shows us practical ways to embrace the idea into our lives.
good things come to those who work hard + stay patient + persevere. #gaman if I told you how many mainstream shows passed on promoting my new book, “Kintsugi Wellness” — it would probably make you cry, too. I sat at my local cafe in Brooklyn, just a few months ago & read email after email in anguish —- of “sorry they are going to pass”, “the book is too niche for them”, “it’s not for their audience”…. as tears rolled down my cheeks, I’d call a friend to console me, this stuff hurts… all of my other books — playing very basic and safe, were always much easier to promote… But what if I told you, that I wrote this book while holding my Japanese grandmother’s hand in southern Japan, as she passed away .. what if I told you that I wrote it to heal my broken heart w the monks in the mountains & what if I told you I interviewed those who survived WWII including my family on overcoming struggles — what if I told you all we wanted to do was change the faith & future of true wellness — to get us back to basics & no frills. What if I told you that mom & I spent three years writing & editing this book together? — we fought, we cried & we bonded & what if I told you that my whole team & I put painful hours behind this book’s process so that we could just do one thing — just help you. It is my legacy. I’ve lost friends this year, painfully — that shit killed me inside— I worked on healing myself, alone & I’ve had more ups and downs than any past year of stepping away from basic wellness and “playing it safe” … as a journalist and writer — I’m going to go deeper & wider, I’m going to travel further than others & continue to help you be well, even if it’s the harder thing to do. I’m back in NYC & I’m so happy to say, we persevered & the @todayshow is going to have us back on July 9th & my mentor @dr_oz & I will be back on making matcha July 16th. I couldn’t believe it — things turned around & You simply can never lose hope 👯♀️⚡️ Thank you to my squad & those of you who got the book & get that it is not niche, it is for the world to share ♥️ I love you & more on how I overcame this on my podcast in the am. #WabiSabi: you get what you give. 🙏🏼 📷 @kathrynmichael
Despite what it says on social media, other people’s lives are not perfect. So instead of comparing your life to your idea of theirs, what not celebrate yours for all that it is? The Japanese actually have a term of it, wabi-sabi refers to the knowledge that live is full of ups and downs so it’s important to celebrate both. If you want to introduce some wabi-sabi to your life stop comparing yourself to others, start practising forgiveness and cut out unnecessary material purchases from your life. Will those runners make you happy in the long-term? No, we didn’t think so!
In both a physical and a mental sense. Balance work and play, find balance in your diet and try to eat a little better. Kintsugi isn’t about depriving yourself, instead it’s about treating yourself with respect and honouring what your body really needs.
Practice self care
Do you treat yourself well? And not treat yo’self as we know it. Do you actually take time out to mind yourself? Kumai translates the Japanese saying “ki o tskkete ne” into a term familiar to the wellness crowd: self-care. To quote another saying, you can’t pour from an empty cup so take time out and do what makes you happy. See friends. Walk your dog. Do some yoga. Or just stay at home and recharge the batteries. You do you.
Focus on your inner circle
We know how important friends are to our health and long-term happiness. According to Kumai, there’s a philosophy called yuimaru that translates to “circle of the people”. So spend time on your friends and family, they’ll build you up and be there long after the material things have faded.